From “what’s wrong with me?” to wanting intimacy again.
You pretend to be asleep so you don’t have to turn him down again. You love him, and you still do it. It feels like your libido vanished and you’re not sure why. I help you understand what your body is doing and why, so wanting him can feel natural again.
Low libido is rarely about lack of attraction or lack of love.
More often, it’s your body shifting into survival mode. Exhaustion, mental noise, and feeling disconnected from your body can all shut your libido down. Freezing when he reaches for you isn’t a decision. It’s a reflex.
When we work together, I take you through a process: understanding what your body is actually doing, rebuilding trust in your own yes and no, restoring the energy stress ate away, and getting you to the place where you’re reaching for him instead of just responding.
Libido Revival
“This is the best sex we’ve ever had. And we’ve been together for 16 years! I can’t recommend Nicole’s method enough.”
What’s blocking your libido?
Take the quiz to find out which of four patterns is behind your libido dip.
I loved my husband. I just didn’t want sex.
I’ve been married 27 years and have two kids, and for long stretches my libido was gone. When he reached for me, my body tensed up or froze before I even knew it was happening.
I was healthy, my labs were normal. So I couldn’t stop thinking, “What’s wrong with me?!”
It turns out my body had shut desire off for reasons that made sense once I saw it, like exhaustion, a too-busy mind, or years of overriding my ‘no’ to keep everyone happy.
I learned how to wake up desire in my body instead of waiting for it to show up randomly. It no longer depended on him, my hormones, or whether I’d had a good week.
The women I work with now are where I was. They love their partner and are sure something in them is broken. I show them it isn’t.
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You’ve done talk therapy, the supplements, maybe even hormone therapy.
Each of those can address part of the picture. What they usually don’t reach is your nervous system, which is where libido most often goes offline. That’s where we work.
We use breath, movement and simple practices that help your body feel safe enough to want again, without forcing, faking, or overriding your own ‘no’. I guide you by voice over private video calls, and anything more personal is yours to try on your own, when you’re ready.
Ways to work together
Private coaching for women ready to stop forcing and start feeling again, plus in-person and online experiences to explore at your own pace.
Libido Revival: 6 Months to Turn-On
Private coaching for women who are done forcing it. In six months, go from dreading his touch to wanting it again, without faking or performing.
- Understand what your body has been protecting you from
- Trust your own ‘yes’ and your own ‘no’ again
- Look forward to intimacy again, and let go of the guilt
Events
In-person workshops in the Boulder/Denver area, plus free 20-minute online trainings about twice a month, where you’ll leave with something you can try that same night.
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